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Cognitive Distortions and Self Defeating Beliefs (SDB)

Negative and Positive Distortions

Cognitive Distortion - en.wikibedia.ru

Cognitive distortions are thoughts that cause individuals to perceive reality inaccurately. According to the cognitive model of Beck, a negative outlook on reality, sometimes called negative schemas (or schemata), is a factor in symptoms of emotional dysfunction and poorer subjective well-being. Specifically, negative thinking patterns reinforce negative emotions and thoughts. During difficult circumstances, these distorted thoughts can contribute to an overall negative outlook on the world and a depressive or anxious mental state.

Common thought distortions that trigger negative feelings: All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Mental Filter, and Discounting the Positive.

TEN COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS

  • Jumping to Conclusions (including Mind-Reading and Fortune-Telling)
  • Magnification
  • Minimization (also called the Binocular Trick)

and Emotional Reasoning.

Discuss of "Should" Statements, Labeling, and Blame. Dr. Burns brings these distortions to life with a case of a severely depressed woman who felt profoundly guilty and devastated after her brother’s tragic suicide.

“My problems are real! The world really IS screwed up! And that’s not a distortion. So what can I do about my severe depression and anxiety?”

#1. Shari writes: 'how can we attend to our own emotional well-being in the face of genuine adversity?' #2. After listening to the A = Agenda Setting portion of the live therapy with Mark, Paul submitted this question:

I am wondering what your thoughts are on how effectively the "A" step can be carried out by a patient on his/her own (i.e. without someone else verbalizing the reasons not to change / playing the part of the patient's sub-conscious)? Do you have any tips? I think I heard Mark say something to the effect that, on his own, he wouldn't have thought of all the positives that you came up with in the session.

Dealing with negative emotions. Dr. Fabrice Nye.

  • Is it really true that only our thoughts--and NOT external events--can change the way we feel?
  • If someone has the belief, "I'm unlovable," isn't that type of thought immutable? How could you possibly change or modify a thought that may be rooted in traumatic experiences and so deeply embedded in a patient's psyche?
  • Should we try to change other people's cognitive distortions, or just our own?
  • How can we challenge each of the ten cognitive distortions? And much more!

If you want to download a transcript of this exciting interview, you can do so at www.neilsattin.com.

Needs and Self Defeating Beliefs (SDB)

A listener named Daisy describes her despair at being unable to have a baby

we get all kinds of messages from society that we need certain things in order to feel worthwhile

  • Achievement / Success / Wealth
  • Intelligence
  • Perfection
  • Love
  • Approval
  • Popularity
  • Good looks

Cognitive Therapists believe that negative thoughts, or cognitions, can exist on two different levels. When you’re upset, you’ll have Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs)

To help you pinpoint your own Self-Defeating Beliefs, David has created two uncovering techniques called the Individual Downward Arrow and the Interpersonal Downward Arrow, and Albert Ellis, the noted New York psychologist, created a third called the “What-If” Technique.

Once they come to the “bottom of the barrel,” they will ask you to pause the recording, and see if you can pinpoint five or six or more of Harold’s Self-Defeating Beliefs, using the list of 23 Common Self-Defeating Beliefs.

Uncovering Self-Defeating Beliefs (SDBs)–For Therapists (and Interested Patients) Only!

Psychoanalysts sometimes help people discover what they call “core conflicts.” According to the highly regarded psychoanalytic researcher Lester Luborsky, PhD, an example of a core conflict might be, “My needs will never be met in my relationships with others.” If you believe this, it will tend to function as a self-fulfilling prophecy, so you’ll constantly feel hurt, lonely, and rejected, and perhaps resentful when you try to get close to others. And you probably won’t realize you’re creating your own painful interpersonal reality.

David and Fabrice will illustrate a powerful, high-speed method that to bring your own Interpersonal Self-Defeating Beliefs to conscious awareness. David has called it the Interpersonal Downward Arrow Technique. David and Fabrice will revisit the same clinical example from the last Podcast—the psychologist named Harold who felt devastated when his favorite patient unexpectedly committed suicide, but in this podcast they will examine how Harold sets up his relationships with his colleagues in a way that causes him to feel lonely, anxious, and resentful.

Interpersonal Downward Arrow: The Rules and the Roles*

The third uncovering technique is called the “What-If” Technique, developed by the late Dr. Albert Ellis. The What-If Technique can will help you identify a terrifying fantasy under the surface that fuels your fears.

Fabrice asks David whether love is a human need? David describes hearing Dr. Aaron Beck proclaim that love is not an adult human need, and feeling shocked, during one of Dr. Beck’s cognitive therapy seminars in the 1970s. Although initially skeptical, David did a number of experiments to test this belief, and came to a startling conclusion. David describes the impact of needing love on his depressed and anxious patients, including lonely individuals who were constantly being rejected in the dating scene.

You’ll find this podcast provocative, controversial, and hopefully interesting. We’ll also include a survey you can complete below, indicating your thoughts about this topic!

"I'm a failure. . . I'm not good enough. . . My life will be empty and meaningless without . . . "

Several months ago I received a compelling email from a young woman named Daisy who asked about the message we get from society that lead to suffering. Fabrice and I were so inspired that we devoted an entire Feeling Good Podcast to it (Podcast 038: Negative Messages from Society)

Mon, 10 Dec 2018 09:00:00 +0000

What’s the difference between Self-Defeating Beliefs (SDBs) vs. Cognitive Distortions?

The thoughts that contain cognitive distortions, such as All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Discounting the Positive, and Self-Blame are distortions of reality, they are the cons that trigger depression and anxiety.

...when you crush a distorted negative thought, you'll immediately feel better.

SDBs like this cannot actually be shown to be false--they are simply your personal, subjective values, and they are thought to be with you all the time, and not just when you're depressed, anxious, or angry.

The question with an SDB is this: What are the advantages and disadvantages of having this value system? How will it help me--what are the benefits--and how might it hurt me? What's the downside?

Common Self-Defeating Beliefs

  • Individual SDBs
    • Perfectionism
    • Perceived Perfectionism
    • Achievement Addiction
    • Approval Addiction
    • Love Addiction
  • Interpersonal SDBs
    • What’s your understanding of the other person’s role in your relationship? What adjectives describe him or her?
    • What’s your understanding of your person’s role in the relationship? What adjectives describe you?
    • How would that kind of relationship feel?
    • What rules connect the two roles?
  • Anger / conflict cluster
    • Entitlement
    • Truth
    • Blame
  • Anxiety cluster / Niceness
    • Conflict Phobia
    • Anger Phobia
    • Emotophobia
    • Submissiveness
    • Spotlight Fallacy
    • Brushfire Fallacy

How can you get rid of Self-Defeating Beliefs?

  • Cost-Benefit Analysis
  • Semantic Method
  • Experimental Technique
  • Feared Fantasy

David and Jill FB Live - Overcoming Perfectionism (recorded on November 11, 2018).

Research